The Integral Business Development System

Do you find yourself second-guessing your decisions often? Or do you frequently let others talk you out of important decisions you made?

In leadership positions, you have to make complex and difficult decisions daily, if not hourly.

This can be hard enough.

Then, having made your decision after much thought and analysis and soul searching, it can be particularly frustrating to find yourself doubting your decision when confronted by persuasive (even though they may be well-meaning) people.

What do you do, when you find yourself in such a position — repeatedly?

Here’s the story of a client who was able to get of this recurring situation using one simple step.

Initially, this person thought that she was just unable to make difficult choices confidently.

However, during our conversation it became clear that this was not the problem.

In fact, I found out that she made all her decisions with much thought and care.

Her challenge lay elsewhere.

As she put it, she felt herself losing confidence in her decision and herself, when confronted by persuasive people.

Even when she knew intellectually that her decision was right for her, she allowed herself to get talked out of her decision.

This was frustrating for her, and often she’d get annoyed with herself for giving in.

Through our conversation, we discovered that the real problem was her losing faith in herself.

“Do you want to be able to hold your ground in these situations? Do you want to feel strong and confident, and not let self-doubt creep in and sway you?” I asked her.

She said yes, in fact that’s exactly what she wanted: to find strength within herself.

Since she wasn’t feeling particularly strong at that moment while she was describing her problem, I asked her to stand up and do the “Mountain Pose” for a minute.

At the end of that minute, I asked her how she felt.

She was amazed at how such a small thing could have such a big impact.

She went on to say that she felt grounded and strong. And in this state, she felt very confident about being able to hold her ground in any conversation.

I suggested to her that she make it a new habit, to do the “Mountain Pose” for a about a minute before going into conversations that could be challenging.

I also suggested she do this during conversations, when she felt she was losing ground. (Don’t worry, this is a subtle pose — I wasn’t asking her to do a headstand in the middle of a conversation!)

Why does this work?

Simply put, it’s because your mind and body are connected.

When you feel physically grounded and strong, it affects how you experience and interact with the rest of the world.

A Powerful Tutorial

First, try this and see what happens:

• Slouch in front of the mirror and tell your reflection, “I feel wonderful!”.
• Or stand up straight and tall in front of that mirror, and tell your reflection, “I feel dreadful!”.

To take it a level deeper, try this:

Choose a practice to strengthen your body physically and experience mental and emotional strength to hold your ground in tough situations. Here is a yoga program by Rodney Yee and the Yoga Journal. Or if you prefer, you can do strength training using weights at they gym. Either way, pay attention to how you feel physically, and the connection between that and how you experience the world.

For more information about this approach, and how you can integrate it into all aspects of your life, schedule a free (and nondecision-making) consultation. There is no obligation to buy anything, ever.

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